Our momma officially left this earth on Friday, July 10th, 2020 at 2:22 p.m.
She was surrounded by so much love. Preston and I held her hands as she took her last earthly breaths. Wade and my lifelong best friend, Holly, who my momma adored were in the room supporting us. Her brother arrived as she was transitioning. It was so beautiful. So gentle. So loved. Every minute.
I held her as she left this earth and took her last breaths the same way she held me as I took my first. She was so beautiful and peaceful. There was no pain.
The house was filled with family and friends who have carried us through this journey. We are so lucky to be loved by so many. I know how happy it makes my momma to know her babies are taken care of by so many beautiful souls.
She did not want a funeral, but we will celebrate her life together when the time is right. It won’t be for several months at least. I promise to update you all when the time comes.
Obviously, it goes without saying that we are truly devestated. We are shattered. We are broken. We are lost. We are hurt. But, because of her, we are also strong. Through this experience, my momma taught me that I can live my worst nightmare, and I will surivive. She taught me that death is a part of life, and it can be a very beautiful experience. This past week while she was home on hospice has been a bizarrely joyful time. The house has been filled everyday with people who love my mom. We listened to her music, and we sang so many songs to her. We laughed and told stories about my mom. She was surrounded by flowers and pictures of her and her adventures. I made sure every person who entered my mom’s sacred transition space saw her for who she was. I told every nurse and caregiver about my momma. I wanted them to know what we were about to lose; to see the fuller picture. To see my momma.
We made sure she was literally never alone. I slept on the floor of her office next to her. We had round the clock care. Nurses and caregivers who sat next to her while we slept. We had everything she wanted. We got to be her family and we didn’t have to worry about anything other than loving her and making her comfortable.
My momma left this world in style. She wouldn’t have it any other way.
She fought so hard. We are so proud of her. Her journey here on earth is over. She won her fight. She is at peace.
No more pain. She is home.
Sending you love,
Elyse
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Goodbye Vickie. Will miss you.
Woody
You have been absolutely amazing through all of this. Thank you for your beautiful posts. Your Mom was fun and kind and generous. She will be remembered fondly and very missed. Love to all
She will be truly be missed !!
Thank you for having the strength to write these difficult post and allowing us to be apart of her journey to peace 🙂
Hugs to you and your family,
Greg & Guylaine
Vicki will always be remembered in our hearts. Everyone will always cherish the good times we had together over the years.
God Bless you and your family.
So beautifully said, Elyse. You ensured that she felt the love surrounding her constantly. Watching her smirk as you told stories about her was the best. I am so proud to know you and your momma, and to have witnessed your beautiful relationship over the years. She’s with you in every moment ♥️
So Glad she went peacefully and with family. She is and will always be that strong, beautiful woman, who has now gone on to a greater life. May you be comforted by all who love her and know that her legacy will live on! Thank you for sharing your momma with us in the good times and in the hard times, she would be so proud of you all.
Steve & Caryn
We will miss Vicki, her smile, and her humor. It’s so hard to lose a mom, and we wish you, your brother, and your family peace and comfort knowing you did everything you could have possibly done for your mom. Thank you for this blog. Take care.
Please let us know if there is a particular charity to which we can send a special donation in Vicki’s memory.
Rest in peace, dear Vicki. Be at peace, Elyse and Wade and my God bless you.
Tanny
I’m so sorry for your loss. You were blessed for having such a beautiful mom and she was blessed for having such beautiful children. I can’t imagine how difficult it must’ve been for you to not only take care of your mom but to keep us all informed as well. Thank you. Of all the people I know I think I was the only one that actually liked going to see my accountant.
I could’ve taken care of my taxes in a 20 minute appointment I don’t think I ever was in the office for less than two hours we would just laugh hysterically and talk about our families she was very proud of you and your brother and she loved you very much.
Dearest Elyse & Preston: Your momma will continue to be in our hearts for as long as ours beat. She became our friend long before you both were born. We rejoiced at your births. Vicki LOVED being your Momma. Whenever we visited her office, you were always playing around her desk. The photo you posted wasn’t an exception. It was the rule. She wouldn’t have had it any other way. To be surrounded by her children was her greatest joy. Whenever we spoke, she always told us how proud she was of her children. Our lives were enriched by her friendship. She will be greatly missed.