Hi! This is Vicki’s daughter, Elyse, updating for my momma.
She’s back at UCLA getting treated inpatient for her pain.
She’s had a very difficult time since she was in the hospital for the brachytherapy almost 2 weeks ago. Brachytherapy is extremely agressive. She is very grateful to have access to this treatment, but all that radiation comes at a cost. Ever since she came home on April 9th, she’s been really swollen and her pain has gotten worse and worse. It got to the point where she could barely move. Wednesday night she had a low grade fever. We called 911 and she went to our local ER. They ruled out anything life threatening and sent her home.
She was home all day Thursday, but nothing was getting better. I spoke with her pain management doctor. We upped her pain meds, and she let me know that it’s not uncommon for cancer patients to come in to the hospital to have their pain managed.
After a very painful, awful morning for her Friday morning, we decided to get the ball rolling on getting her admitted to UCLA. With everything going on with covid, this was not easy, but I spoke with her OBGYN oncologist and the pain management doctor and they made it happen.
It was extremely difficult to coordinate getting her to UCLA as it’s about 30 miles away from home, and her mobility was close to 0, but I know in my heart we made the right call. I’ve spoken to her several times today and she’s doing ok. She’s on strong pain meds. She’s got compression wear on, she’s eating, and she worked with a physical therapist. They ran all sorts of blood work to try and figure out why she’s having so much pain and if there’s an infection. So far, everything has come back negative.
When I spoke to the doctors, they seem to feel this is her body responding to all the treatment she’s had. Everyone responds differently. The oncologist said there was a lot of cancer in there and her body has worked so hard to shrink the tumor. She was diagnosed barely 2 months ago and started treatment less than 2 months ago. Less than 60 days. It’s hard to believe. She’s been through so much in such a short amount of time.
My mom is my best friend. She’s so strong and sassy and fun. I miss her so much right now, and I can’t wait until she’s better. This has been hell for all of us. My boyfriend (she likes to call him her son in law. We’ve been together for 16 years.), Wade, and I have been with her round the clock, except when she’s in the hospital. My brother, Preston, lives in Oregon and is unable to be with us because of the pandemic and my mom’s compromised immune system. This truly is awful timing. Not like there’s any good time for cancer. I can’t be with her in the hospital, and it’s really hard and scary. I mean it when I say your comments and kind words about my momma mean so much to her and to all of us.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart for loving my momma and for reading her blog. Cancer sucks, but I don’t think she truly understood how loved she is until all of this began. She sees all your comments, and she’s often moved to tears. She has all the cards you’ve all sent hanging on the mirror in the entryway. You’ve all helped more than you know. Please keep sending your love and prayers and positivity. We all need it now more than ever. Thank you.
Elyse
You are so strong, stay positive and know we are all praying in your corner! If you need anything know we are here for you all. Xoxo
Michele and I have known Vicki for decades. We love her so much and look forward to her recovery. She is in our hearts every day. She is so lucky to have you as her daughter. Please send her our love. She is a wonderful person. Can’t wait to hear about her winnings when she goes back to Vegas.
Love and prayers,
Steve and Michele Brown
Hang in there Vic we can do this you’ve got a lot of love coming from a lot of people we’re all with you and thinking of you I wish we could see you but with all this going on it’s impossible Hopefully this will start to settle down and be manageable love ya take care. Dave
Thank you for your update. It was written with so much love.
So many emotions. I will continue to keep all of you in my thoughts and prayers. It’s reassuring to know you all have each other to lean on.
Sending love and healing. XOXO
We love your mom dearly. She was always helping friends and family and now needs our love and support. We started out as clients and quickly became friends. We are so sorry that she is going through this. We wish there was more that we could do to help. We are very grateful that you, Wade and Preston are there for your mom. If we can do anything for you please let us know. We are always thinking of your mom and keeping her and you in our prayers.
We love your mom dearly and are sorry that she is going through this. She is a fighter and has numerous friends praying for her and your family. So glad she has such a loving family. We can’t be with her but are sending her love and hugs.
SO SORRY TO HEAR YOU ARE IN SO MUCH PAIN. HE=AD I KNOW BUT YOU MUST KEEP A POSITIVE MIND SET AND STAY STRONG TO BEAT THIS. YOU ARE A WINNER SO I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT. LOVE AND PRAYERS ALWAYS COMING YOUR WAY.
Elyse you are a wonder daughter . I know how hard this be for you too to see your mom going through this.
Vicki you are like a fun, crazy sister I never had. I love you. Try to remember there is light at the end of this. You know I know. You are in my prayers every night. When you are all better we will party till the cows come home!
All my love to all of you.
Elyse, thank you for keeping us updated. Keep doing exactly what you’re doing for your mom. Stay strong and keep fighting. Love and prayers ❤️🙏🏻❤️🙏🏻
The Bowers family.
Elyse, Thank you so much for your update. You have a terrific mom, but she also has a terrific daughter!
Vicki, How wonderful to be loved by so many. I pray your pain subsides so you can get on with the business of healing!
Hugs and kisses to you,
Tanny
Dear Vicki, Elyse, and family,
My heart goes out to you all! You are in my prayers. Praying that our Lord will surround all of you with His loving peace and comfort!
Love always
I love your mom. I’m sending up prayers let her know. This is Desiree Rentz. She has been my rock a lot of years.
I am sorry she is in so much pain. I hope they can find a way to manage it. I am thinking about her all the time sending good thoughts and prayers. Stay safe and strong.
Thanks for your update, and I can only imagine how hard this is on the entire family. There is power in the positive attitudes you all keep. Your mom is a strong woman, and we have enjoyed her friendship for the last 40 years, as she started out being our accountant but we have maintained a friendship as well as a working relationship. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all…
My prayers go out for you each day. Be strong and enduring. The time will come when this is all over. Then there will be Happy Days Again. Love you lots Tom.
I love your Mom! Please send her my best wishes and love!
Vicki….know that I love you! I really know you can fight this! It may not feel like you can…but you are stronger than you think right now. All your friends are with you! We are holding you virtually!
Sending lots of virtual hugs! Leni
Hi Elyse
I’ve been reading and re-reading all the blogs and have been praying non-stop for your Mom Vicki.
I think she is ONE fabulous gal and I just have had a hard time dealing with this happening to her.
Cancer is a tough thing to deal with but I feel it’s going to all be over with and you will be able to put it behind you.
I wanted to send flowers but didn’t when and where to send them to.
Also when my husband who had cancer was in the hospital we could not have flowers in the room.
So I did not attempt to send them.
My prayers and thoughts are and have been with you daily.
Waiting for an update and hoping the pain has subsided.
I know you and Wade are there for your beloved Mommy.
Love ❤️ you Vicki!!!!!
Joanne